Claim Your Spot in the Waiting Room

Thoughts from a Waiting Room #3

The waiting room is yours. Do not share it. That is what I was told. My only goal lately has been to occupy the waiting room. And I am doing whatever I can to not share the room with other families.
You bond with the other families and care for them, but do not share the waiting room with. You want to care for them in the hallway. You want to talk to them in the hallway. Not on couches. Those couches are yours. And if you don't take ownership, these other families will think they can use the waiting room couches too. You welcome them into the waiting room, next thing you know it's for every family visiting their loved one in the ICU. It's just as easy to listen to their story about the motorcycle accident in the hallway.
Nothing kills the vibe of your family relaxing at the hospital with crushed ice and ginger ale more than other people coming into your room.
Here are the main techniques the Kilimnick family has developed for claiming the room so others don’t join:

The Three Person Technique
Settle the room with at least three people. One person is weak alone. Like a chair with one leg. Other families will come in and start loud conversation; sometimes even use the "can we sit next to you" technique of removing you through discomfort. Very Chutzpadik to come into a waiting room, to think you can use it as well. Especially when we have family coming in later for dinner. The waiting room has a table as well, for our family soiree.
They will even angle conversation over you. Anything to get you out of there. The other families are sneaky. They all got their techniques. You need three people to take control.
Also known as the Large Family Technique, if you have a lot of guests you can always over-claim a room. It’s a numbers game. Nonetheless, you need at least three people to be loud.

The Coat Method
My brother came up with the coat method of settlement, where you throw coats everywhere. It’s hot out, but that’s not stopping us from bringing trenches and parkas for our waiting room. One person and four coats can claim a room, if you spread them out right.
Don't be afraid to use purses. I don't suggest purses with cash in them. It's optimal to bring extra handbags. This gives a sense of more people. Hence, more space for you and your family. Carry on luggage is also quite helpful, giving off the message that you are moving in, to the other families.

Spread the Food
Spreading out dinner helps. Bring tins and lay them out. That establishes the room as yours for the day.
If we have to, we are leaving out the empty trays. Do not clean up after yourself. If there is no cleanup crew that night, you can get two days out of a couple disposables. Leave your trash and it will be uncomfortable for the others. This is also a great way of reserving your room for when you come back from Mincha services. 
Do not be afraid to use food from other families. If people left food and Styrofoam, you can use that to settle another table and couch. Just toss the wings on the love seat.

Decoration Technique
Decorate the room. We brought in a pillow. Nobody sits on the seat where we have our pillow. I am thinking of bringing a picture of the Rebbe and putting it up. That will let them know whose room it is. The Rebbe, a candelabra, some streamers. Mix up the room a little to our family liking. I believe the plastic cactus plant placed correctly will throw off the others.
Starting a settlement with the pillows is a good way to claim space where there are no couches. Bringing your own ottoman can also help control the waiting room. Remember, the more room you take up, the less others will have. And that is truly the goal.

Talk Loud
As discussed, if you're by yourself, it is hard to be loud. But you can do it. A loud phone call will suffice. An overexcited phone call laugh will annoy anybody. Loud conversation is a great way of removing the previous family from the room and creating anti-Semites.
The Large Family Technique works the best. This is why Charedi ultra-Orthodox Jews have a lot of kids. It helps them claim their spot at the hospital. With this in mind, you may want to birth more kids, just in case the waiting room is needed.
Remember, arguments among your family truly helps with claiming the waiting room. You may want to repeat the pulling the plug argument the doctor brings up when you see other people coming into the waiting room. It truly helps. It's good the doctors and social workers bring that up a lot. Arguments about who is there, when you are there together, also works.

Other Techniques
As I am about educating and being educated, my friends have added some techniques that you might want to have in your wheelhouse for times you're alone and want to get a good nap in the waiting room.
Yomi mentioned burping and scratching your head to make yourself look crazy. I have seen this technique used in the emergency room, used along with the Barefoot Homeless Method, it truly keeps the people away.
Ryan Smith also reminded us of the Foot on Chair Method. Put your feet up on any chairs you're not sitting on. Family members should also put feet on tables. Feet are a quite valuable appendage of deterrent.
Never move an object. If you move a purse, a jacket or a pillow, you are giving in. You're showing weakness. Families of ICU patients are very sneaky.
And show up early when you must. We noticed other families also care about their loved ones in SICU. Very annoying.

I can see anti-Semites saying, "The Jews and their settlements. This is how the occupation started, with plastic plants, pillows and feet." I'm fine with that. As long as we have the waiting room.

I hope this helps. As we've learned, there's no feeling that's worse than seeing other people in the waiting room and having to share it. A loved one in ICU is a close second.
I'm beginning to think some of my family is liking the waiting room too much.

***For an Aliyas Neshama for HaRabbetzin Necha Bat Chayim Zaydel A”H and a Refuah Sheleyma for all who need a speedy recovery, and shared laughter with their family and friends.