Food Truly Changes the ICU Experience

by David Kilimnick

Thoughts from a Waiting Room #1

It's been hard times with Mom going through stuff. Been in the ICU for a couple of weeks. Yet, many community people have been there to help.
Bikur Cholim help in Jewish communities is amazing. Bikur Cholim, visiting the sick, being a Mitzvah has helped me get a lot of food. Mom can't eat, but I am not going to tell anybody that. I'm enjoying all of the food, and I will keep telling them it's a Mitzvah.
When people think they're doing a Mitzvah, they do good. If people thought it was a Mitzvah to not be depressed, they might smile in shul. I think I have the makings of a non-profit here. I'm going to tell people it's a Mitzvah to give me money.
In hard times, it's good to know that people come together to help. In between the tears, it's good to know people care.

The Community Comes Out with Food Brings
Food brings out the beauty of the community. It's great to see community working together to make sure we are fed. The Jewish soul knows that people shouldn’t deal with crisis on an empty stomach. When family is in the hospital, in the ICU caring for a loved one that almost died, the Jewish community understands that what they need is a good spread.
They have lists going out. Different people cooking for us every night. They have Tehillim lists, Mishebeyrach blessings lists and Flanken rib lists.
One family from the community brought us bagels and lox. No onions. A Chutzpah. Probably the worst spread I ever had. I question their Neshama.
In between the tears, it's good to know there's food.

Family Visits
Cousins hear the shul members are bringing food, they're visiting for dinner. Not coming to the ICU for Mom. They're showing up for the shnitzel.
Close relatives are bringing food too. They are truly there for us. Bringing us food and eating it. I think the family likes the ambiance in the waiting room.  The dimmed lighting makes for an excellent dinner experience.

Bring Decent Food
The food you're bringing influences how many visitors come.
I just want to get in a thought here. An important thought. One that will help all members of the community. If you care, bring good stuff. The other night somebody brought us ziti. I would’ve liked to have known. I wouldn’t have visited that day.
You have to tell us what you're bringing too. I was Fleishicks. I couldn't eat dairy for another four hours. I would've run errands and then visited.
One day somebody had the Chutzpah of bringing cake and no whipped cream. When word got out, I heard some family members turned around on the I-95.

Food is Vital
Emotions don't get in the way of food.
In the hospital, my cousin asks us what we want for dinner tomorrow night, prefaced with, 'Although it's the furthest thing from your mind.' Don't assume. I am very much thinking about dinner tomorrow night. There is a big difference between breaded shnitzel and pretzel chicken.
If we’re not on top of the food, somebody might bring us ziti for dinner.

Things I Learned
When getting good food that I am not paying for, I don't ask if it's kosher.  
No matter how hard I have it, I'll be thinking about food. There's Jewish tradition to proclaim Gd's Oneness with the Shema when a person is about to pass on. I'll probably be saying a Shehakol on a nice piece of Flanken. It's a Bracha to Gd.
If people knew that there was all this food at the hospital, the ICU would be more well attended.

Conclusion
Everybody has an important place in community, if they can cook. If it wasn't for everybody helping, they might have missed a meal. And that means relatives would stop visiting.
Note of Importance: Please cook more. We didn't expect distant relatives who heard about dinner to be bringing their grandkids for supper. I only got one chicken finger the other night.
Another Note of Importance: Don't come if you don't have food. I see you coming in without a platter, I am truly asking myself why you're here.
In between the tears, it's good to know that our cousins are well-fed.
The food almost makes it all worth it.

***For an Aliyas Neshama for HaRabbetzin Necha Bat Chayim Zaydel A”H and a Refuah Sheleyma for all who need a speedy recovery, and shared laughter with their family and friends.